Diocese of Jamshedpur
Vol. 47 No. 9 Private Circulation
Only September – 2017
Dear Brothers and
Sisters in Jesus,
Pope Francis in
his 'Amoris Laetitia,' or 'The Joy of Love' expresses few points that would
keep a family together in love.
Make
Time For One Another, Even If You're Busy
"Love needs
time and space; everything else is secondary. Time is needed to talk things
over, to embrace leisurely, to share plans, to listen to one other and gaze in
each other's eyes, to appreciate one another and to build a stronger
relationship. Sometimes the frenetic pace of our society and the pressures of
the workplace create problems. At other times, the problem is the lack of
quality time together, sharing the same room without one even noticing the
other."
Sometimes,
Just Listen
"Instead of
offering an opinion or advice, we need to be sure that we have heard everything
the other person has to say. ... Often the other spouse does not need a
solution to his or her problems, but simply to be heard, to feel that someone
has acknowledged their pain, their disappointment, their fear, their anger,
their hopes and their dreams.”
Accept
Your Partner's Shortcomings
"It does not
matter if they hold me back, if they unsettle my plans, or annoy me by the way
they act or think, or if they are not everything I want them to be. Love always
has an aspect of deep compassion that leads to accepting the other person as
part of this world, even when he or she acts differently than I would
like."
...
And Be Generous With Their Imperfections
"We have to
realize that all of us are a complex mixture of light and shadows. The other
person is much more than the sum of the little things that annoy me. Love does
not have to be perfect for us to value it. The other person loves me as best
they can, with all their limits, but the fact that love is imperfect does not
mean that it is untrue or unreal."
Never
Go To Bed Angry: Hugs Can Help
"My advice is
never to let the day end without making peace in the family," He writes,
then quotes himself from 2015: "And how am I going to make peace? By
getting down on my knees? No! Just by a small gesture, a little something, and
harmony within your family will be restored. Just a little caress, no words are
necessary."
Try
To Find Your Partner Beautiful And Lovable
"Loving
another person involves the joy of contemplating and appreciating their innate
beauty and sacredness, which is greater than my needs. This enables me to seek
their good even when they cannot belong to me, or when they are no longer
physically appealing but intrusive and annoying."
Don't
Hold Grudges
"Irritableness
or resentment is a violent reaction within, a hidden irritation that sets us on
edge where others are concerned, as if they were troublesome or threatening and
thus to be avoided. To nurture such interior hostility helps no one. It only
causes hurt and alienation."
Say
Please, Thank You and Sorry
Francis quotes a
speech he gave in 2013: "Three words need to be used. I want to repeat
this! Three words: 'Please', 'Thank you', 'Sorry'. Three essential words!"
"Let us not
be stingy about using these words, but keep repeating them, day after
day."
Trust
Is Key
"This goes
beyond simply presuming that the other is not lying or cheating. ... It means
we do not have to control the other person, to follow their every step lest
they escape our grip. Love trusts, it sets free, it does not try to control,
possess and dominate everything. This freedom, which fosters independence, an
openness to the world around us and to new experiences, can only enrich and
expand relationships."
Remember:
Love Takes Work
"It is not
helpful to dream of an idyllic and perfect love needing no stimulus to grow. A
celestial notion of earthly love forgets that the best is yet to come, that
fine wine matures with age. ... It is much healthier to be realistic about our
limits, defects and imperfections, and to respond to the call to grow together,
to bring love to maturity and to strengthen the union, come what may."
When
You Argue, Acknowledge Your Partner's Perspective
"Never
downplay what they say or think, even if you need to express your own point of
view. ... We ought to be able to acknowledge the other person's truth, the
value of his or her deepest concerns, and what it is that they are trying to
communicate, however aggressively."
Aim
To Disagree Without Being Hurtful
"Making a
point should never involve venting anger and inflicting hurt. A patronizing
tone only serves to hurt, ridicule, accuse and offend others. Many
disagreements between couples are not about important things. Mostly they are
about trivial matters. What alters the mood, however, is the way things are
said or the attitude with which they are said."
Think
Thoughts, Read Books: It's Important To Be Interesting.
"For a
worthwhile dialogue we have to have something to say. This can only be the
fruit of an interior richness nourished by reading, personal reflection, prayer
and openness to the world around us. Otherwise, conversations become boring and
trivial. When neither of the spouses works at this, and has little real contact
with other people, family life becomes stifling and dialogue
impoverished."
Appreciate
and embrace marital-sexuality
"God himself
created sexuality, which is a marvellous gift to his creatures," Francis
writes. Sex should never be pursued for just one person's pleasure, or in a way
that treats your partner as "an object to be used," Francis writes, and
should always involve freely given consent. Sexuality is "meant to aid the
fulfilment of the other," he writes, but "personal satisfaction"
is involved as well — not just self-sacrificing service to your partner's
needs.
Your Friend and
Servant
+Felix
Toppo, S.J.
Zara Hat Ke programmes: St. Xavier's
Church, Chaibasa
With joy we
share that this year in the celebration of the Golden Jubilee of St. Xavier's
Church is doing some Zara Hat Ke programmes. We had Monica day celebration not
only in the parish but 55 men and women went to Ulahatu for pilgrimage and on
3rd Sept. 2017 we had celebration of Sainthood Day of St. Mother Theresa of
Kolkata; there was one solemn Mass in the parish. After the Mass, there was a
silent prayer procession from the Church to Sadar Hospital with the lighted
candles. At the hospital campus in front of the Mother's statue, we had a short
prayer, garlanding on the statue by Sisters from MC, Fr. Augustine Kullu, Mr.
Asish Birua and Mrs. Elisaba Dungdung. After this programme, St. Xavier's Boys
School children presented a Nukad Natak on Mother Theresa and with short prayer
we ended the prayer session. It was followed by a Fruit distribution to the
inmates of the hospital; 185 patients were given fruits and 20 TMC children
were given towels. The celebrations continued with a blood donation camp in the
other side and it continued till 1.30 PM. 36 units of blood was donated. We
thanked all the Law Administration, Hospital Administration and all our
parishioners, donors for the day. Our parishioners bore all the expenses for
the day. (Fr. Halan Bodra)
Feast Day Celebration at St. Mary's
Church, Bistupur
St Mary's
Church, Jamshedpur celebrated its feast day which is also the feast day of
Assumption Our Lady. The celebration began with the Holy Mass at 10:00 am by Rt Rev Bishop Felix Toppo, S.J. Rev Fr
Edward Saldanha, Rev Fr Puthumai Raj and Rev Fr Pradeep Marandi concelebrated
the Mass. After the Eucharistic celebration, there was a short cultural
programme in which Sacred Heart Convent School, St Mary's Hindi School, St Mary's English High School, Xavier's School,
Gamharia, St Xavier's School, Khasmahal and the parishioners presented one
cultural programme each. During the cultural programmes, Sr. Christy, SJT and
Mr John Lakra; Area Leader were felicitated for their contribution to the
Church and the community. The Bishop presented them with the Scroll of Honour
and a shawl on behalf of the parishioners. In this event, four children of our
parish were recognized for their good performance. The cultural programme was
followed by fellowship meal. About 750 parishioners joined the celebration.
(Mrs. Manisha Topno)
Workshop on Sustainable Development
Goals
The
Catholic Charities organized a workshop on Sustainable Development Goals for
its staff on 25th September, 2017. The goal of this workshop was to strengthen
and motivate the staff with the mission and vision of United Nations and
thereby to apply them in the working areas, so that the staff may be able to
play a role in achieving these goals. The aim of the United Nations is to
achieve these 17 goals by the end of 2030. Dr. Gaurav Anand from JUSCO was the
resource person, who explained the every 17 goals in details. Mrs. Dr. Nilima
Bara from JUSCO was very kind enough to get us the resource person. The CCJ
family offers Dr. Gaurav Anand, Dr. Mrs. Nilima Bara and all the CCJ staff for
their active participation and cooperation.
The Annual General Body Meeting of
Catholic Charities.
The Annual General Body
Meeting of Catholic Charities Sundernagar was held on 18th August 2017 in the
office of CCJ at 5 pm. The President, Dr. Felix Toppo,S.J chaired the meeting. He
invited the SJVK team to sing a bhajan and lead the house in prayer. After the
prayer, President extended the warm welcome to all the members' especially Sr.
Beena Kujur SSH (Vikas Bharti) and Fr. Birendra Tete, Asst. Director. After
that a minute of silence was observed in the name of Late Fr. George Mannarakam
the former member of the general body.
The President then expressed the heartfelt thanks and appreciation to
Rev. Fr. C. R. Prabhu the former Director of the Organization by honouring him
with a shawl. He also wished the new director Fr. Alwin C.V all the best for
the new adventure. There was a sharing on different topics such as the achievements,
challenges, outgoing and incoming of the staff and about the various projects.
The president thanked the director and the staff for their good and hard works.
Distribution of
Mango Saplings
Keeping in mind the message of Pope Francis in Laudato Si, the Catholic
Charities took the initiative to reach more than 500 grafted mango saplings to
different Parishes and Institutions of the diocese. It was very well accepted
by the Parish Priests and the Head of the different Institutions. The Catholic
Charities offers a big thanks to all for your cooperation. May we come forward
more and more and take initiatives to protect and care for our loving mother
earth.
St. Xavier's
English School, Chaibasa
On 21st July Silver Jubilee celebration of the school was officially
begun. The whole Xavier family assembled on the ground for the celebrations.
The day began with a prayer, Scripture Reading from the Holy Bible followed by
a prayer song. We were honoured to have the presence of Fr. Helen Bodra, the
Chief Guest, Fr. Sahay Thason, Sr. Geeta and our principal Sr. Sheetal. The
lamp was lit by the guests, sisters, some selected staff members and students.
The School Choir presented a melodious Jubilee Song. A Dance Drama was
presented by the students which led us to the memory lane of the glorious 25
year journey.
After this, a formal procession was led by the Xaverities. It started
from our school and ended at the SPG Mission Compound via many areas of the
town. The students enthusiastically displayed a stupendous road show. Soon it
became the talk of the town. The next day, 22nd July was declared as a holiday.
The regular classes resumed from 23rd July. Various co-curricular
activities were held in the school. The Telegraph organized, 'Telegraph Genius
Aptitude Test' for Std I to IX on 1st August.
Marriage
preparation course at St. Joseph's Cathedral, Golmuri
A Five Day
Marriage Preparation Course was organized by Rev. Fr. David Vincent, the Parish
Priest. The course was solemnly inaugurated by Rt. Rev. Bishop Felix Toppo,
S.J. In a nutshell, he threw light on “Amoris Laetitia” to instill desire in
participants' mind and heart. There were 31 participants. The topics were
wisely chosen to enlighten the participants-such as Biblical perspective on
marriage, Sacraments, practical problems in married life, Canon law on marriage
and its implications, Pope's teachings on marriage, practical tips for family
issues. Topics were tactfully and meticulously dealt with by Frs. Valerian
Lobo, Jilson T. L., Edwin Coelho, David Vincent, Manoj Tigga,
Fabian Toppo and Mr. Bimal Lakra.
The
participants highly appreciated the course. They came to conclusion that 'shadi
barbadi nahi hai'. It is a life-long friendship and sharing of life and love.
Congratulations and kudos to Rev. Fr. David Vincent and all the resource
persons. (Fr. Manoj Tigga)
One-Day workshop on the current
situations of Jharkhand
The
Catholic Diocese of Jamshedpur organized a workshop at Catholic Charities, on
the current situations of Jharkhand in view of the New Laws and Ordinances in
the state of Jharkhand on 31st August. Mr. Benjamin Lakra and Mr. Vinod
Kispotta were the resource persons, who in their speech highlighted the pros
and cons, opportunities and obstacles of the new ordinances. There were around
400 participants, who came from all over the diocese. A big thanks to Bishop
Felix Toppo SJ and the Catholic Charities for organizing it so well. ( Fr.
Birendra Tete)
Bible Quiz: 53
Mt. 19-16-26
Everyone of
us wishes to attain eternal life as the young man in the gospel. Jesus is ever
ready to guide us in this endeavour. It is not just following the Ten
commandments but a total surrender to God and also having a loving concern for
the neighbour as oneself that leads us to eternal life. So, let us go for it!
1. Why did the young man come to Jesus?
2. According to Jesus only One is good.
Who is he?
3. Fill in the blanks : I have …………. all
these, what do I ……….
4. Whom should I love as myself?
5. If you wish to be complete, then go and
………. Complete the sentence.
6. What will be there in heaven for us?
7. What was the response of the young man
when he heard Jesus?
8. Where is it that the rich person finds
difficult to enter ?
9. Where does the Pope live?
10. Whose birthday is celebrated on 08th of
September?
You are
requested to send the answers latest by the first week of September to the following address.
Director
Divya
Bharati Pastoral Centre
Near Mudhra
Hospital,
Chaibasa,
Jharkhand – 833201
BIRTHDAY BABIES- September
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Date
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Name
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05
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Jeyraj Ignatious
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07
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Emmanuel Horo
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09
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A.
Alphose
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11
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C.R. Prabhu
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13
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Tobias Kujur
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17
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Nestor Soreng
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19
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Vijay Bhatt
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21
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Edward Saldanha
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22
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Benedict Minj
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29
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Pascal Toppo
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30
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Bipin Barla
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BISHOP'S ENGAGEMENTS
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SEPTEMBER 2017
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02-10
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TLIG Pilgrimage
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Moscow
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12
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Tue
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PM
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To Ranchi
to JSR
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14
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Thu
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09.30 am
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Meeting of JDC & JDES, Passing of Audit Report
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Golmuri
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16
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Sat
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AM-PM
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To Kolkata to Jalpaiguri
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17-23
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Sun…
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Retreat for the Priests
of Jalpaiguri Diocese
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Jalpaiguri
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25
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Mon
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AM-PM
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To Kolkata to Bangalore
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27-29
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Wed...
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Standing Committee
Meeting
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Bangalore
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30
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Sat
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AM-PM
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To Ranchi to Anandpur
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Contribution for the Diocesan News
Letter
Your
great work or the success story of your parish or institution may be an
inspiration to others. It may help someone to restructure his/her priorities.
Therefore, may we request you to send the news and stories of success /
failures, pastoral activities for the “News Letter”. So that everybody could
benefit from it. (You may send them to Fr. Jilson T.L - pajsrbishop@gmail.com)
